F.E.A.R

For weeks I have been toiling about the idea of writing about fear.Just because yours trully,though hard to admit is sometimes afraid.And,no am not afraid of the dark,or being robbed,growing up with the boys I learnt not to be afraid of such things.But I am afraid,yes,of my tomorrow, of the future,ahead of me.Just the thought of it keeps me awake,thinking of only God knows what.Am afraid of other things things too,am afraid of trailers and overtaking vehicles.Why do drivers overtake anyway,?I was thinking the other day,of the plans I had,some have achieved ,others are yet to take off! I was terriby afraid,but then I remembered whose daughter I was,and I straightened my crown.We ought not to be afraid, in an effort to know more about fear I googled and came up with interesting definitions about fear.

Fear is an unpleasant often strong emotionbcaused by anticipation or awareness of danger.
Fear is a mind killer,fear is the little death that brings total obliteration.
Fear and worry are interest paid in advance on something you may never own.

In his book,An Enemy Called Average, John Mason says,Fear is a poor chisel for carving out tomorrow.Today,if you are viewing your future from a position of fear or worry,I want to let you know that view is not accurate or correct.Instead,view your future from a position of faith.That's the truth.Worry is simply the triumph of fear over faith.
A story is told of a woman crying profusely and standing on a street corner.A man came up to her and asked why she was weeping.The lady shook her head and replied: "I was just thinking that maybe someday I would get married.We would later have a beautiful baby girl.Then one day this child and I would go for a walk along this street, and my darling daughter would run into the street, get hit by a car,and die.".

It sounds like a pretty ridiculous situation-weeping because of something that will probably never happen. Yet we act this way when we worry and fear.We blow a situation out of proportion that might not even come to pass.

Am not afraid of my future anymore,He who holds my life,has it ordained already.
According to google,there six basic fears:poverty, criticism,Ill health,loss of love,old age,and death.And then I came across the following types of fears:-

Athazagoraphobia-The fear of forgetting,being forgotten, or ignored,or being replaced.
Pistanthrophobia-Fear of trusting people due to past experiences with relationship s gone bad.
Hippopotomonstrosesquippedaliophobia-fear of long words.
Anatidaephobia-The fear that a duck is following you.
Glossophobia-Fear of public speaking.
Philophobia-fear of falling in love.
Atelphobia-The fear of not being good enough.
Caronophobia-The fear of cancer!!

So many fears!May be this quote from Frank Herbert Dune will help you and me to overcome our everyday fears. "I will face my fears,I will allow my fear to pass over me and through me.And when it has gone I will turn my inner eye to see its path.And where the fear has gone,there will be nothing, Only I remain.And Courage is acting in faith,despite our feelings of fear.(Joe Balin).

I hope you have a fear free week and above all fearless life!!.

Its Nzisa.

FARE THEE WELL ,JOEY

It is a sad day for me.Miles away in Alexandria, Indiana,a friend Joey Feek lost her battle to cancer.I came to know her through her husband's blog,This Life I live,One man's extra ordinary life.I love country music,The two made Joey + Rory-the country music duo,Joey was duo's lead vocalist,while Rory sings background vocals and plays the guiter.

They shared a love so deep,and their music is great.Last November Joey's cervical cancer was declared terminal,it came back and spread to her colon. .All the medication was stopped and she relied on morphine to ease the pain.She chose to go back to Indiana where she was born and brought up,so that she spend her last days there,surrounded by her family.

In an interview last November, Joey said was not angry or depressed with God,(whom she served diligently) but she was disappointed, that after going radical gynecological surgery to eradicate it,the cancer had returned as inoperable and terminal.
Joey's wish was to live past Christmas 2015 and if possible her daughter's second birthday 2016,all of which she achieved.

For days, we held our breath,in his blog on Feb 29,Rory said Joey has being in deep sleep for days.Holding our breath, we waited for this country music fairytale with the saddest of endings to reach its ending.Holding our breath and sadly waiting for Joey Feek's last breath on this earth,and a first one in heaven.

In his blog,Rory says that he is thankful that so many in the world are following his wife's journey.

Joey's journey encouraged masses all over the world.In her own words she said she still believes and knows even Jesus heals,She never questioned God,she said she had accomplished her work here on Earth,and she didn't regret a single bit of it.Before,she drifted into this deep sleep, she called her family by her side,and bid all of them goodbye one by one.Even her two year old daughter. She was happy she was going to meet her maker,she hinted Jesus had talked over over to her,isn't this beautiful,though cancer took her body away,it never took her spirit and believe in God.

Her legacy will live forever,What about us,who have been left behind,may we live a life that inspires and encourages other.Joey's life moved me.Rest in Heaven Joey,am sure you are dancing with angels,cancer free.

To Rory,Indy,Hopie,Heidi,family and friends all over the world,may God give you strength and comfort you.May ou
r life's inspire millions on earth. Fare Thee well Joey.

You can read more about Joey,watch her videos,listen to her music on her husband's blog
She was truly beautiful, had a beautiful voice and above all beautiful soul.

We will surely miss you.

Stop Complaining and Count Your Blessings

Most of us have this nasty habit of complaining about everything including things that do not matter.Infact,for some complaining is there second nature.Picture this,you have just bought two big pizzas and are getting into a car when a friend comes over,and,as we commonly do,she asks how have you been.

You say 'fine,tunasukumana tu na maisha,imekuwa ngumu sana'Why can't you just say fine and let it rest instead of adding how difficult life has become?Why is it typical of us to always find something to complain about?
And complaining we do.We complain about everything. How bad the traffic jam is.How bad our roads are.How terrible the house girl is,How nagging our wives are,How demanding our babies and husbands are,How bad the boss is,How demanding our jobs are,How bad the food the housegirl made last night was,How small the house is,How the mortgage is killing you,How small the parking bay is,How bad your skin is,How irritating your snoring husband is.The list is endless.

The next time you want to complain about little things like that,and even get stressed about them,stop and think about how blessed you are.You will realise that you really do not have real problems. There are people out there with bigger,more serious issues to deal with in this life.That is not to mean that you should downplay your problems, rather you should make an habit of adopting a more positive altitude to life.

Other than always talking about the miseries in your life,it would help to have more optimistic altitude towards life.The traffic jam may be bad,but you should be grateful that you are in a car or matatu and that you can afford one,and also that you are not one.When you want to complain about your demanding husband and baby,praise God that you are not lonely,that you have a husband and you are blessed with a demanding baby.Do not take it for granted that you have a child,no matter how tiring it is to look after him or her,since some women are unable to have children.

If tempted to complain about how small your house is,think of IDPS,who live in tents years after postelection violence, and other homeless people.You think your skin is bad, because you have a few pimples and dry patches?Well there is someone suffering from skin cancer or other serious conditions.

If you want to complain about how terrible and unmanageable your hair is,just think about that woman who has lost all her glorious hair,not because she wanted to be clean shaven ,but because she underwent a series of very painful chemotherapy sessions. If you are stressed because of the mortgage, please stop and think how blessed you are that the bank considered you for a mortgage. Infact,you are among less than 10 per cent of Kenyans who can afford a mortgage.

Let gratitude became your way of life.Each day,take time to count your blessings. Gratitude should not be just a reaction to getting what you want,but an all time gratitude,the kind where you notice the little things,and where you constantly look for the good,even in unpleasant situations. Start bringing gratitude to your experiences instead of waiting for a positive experience to feel grateful.

The benefits of gratitude are many.You develop stronger emotional resilience and are able to cope better with adversity.You Will aslo be happier,you will sleep better,and you will be healthier.

Itgalvee