Stop Complaining and Count Your Blessings

Most of us have this nasty habit of complaining about everything including things that do not matter.Infact,for some complaining is there second nature.Picture this,you have just bought two big pizzas and are getting into a car when a friend comes over,and,as we commonly do,she asks how have you been.

You say 'fine,tunasukumana tu na maisha,imekuwa ngumu sana'Why can't you just say fine and let it rest instead of adding how difficult life has become?Why is it typical of us to always find something to complain about?
And complaining we do.We complain about everything. How bad the traffic jam is.How bad our roads are.How terrible the house girl is,How nagging our wives are,How demanding our babies and husbands are,How bad the boss is,How demanding our jobs are,How bad the food the housegirl made last night was,How small the house is,How the mortgage is killing you,How small the parking bay is,How bad your skin is,How irritating your snoring husband is.The list is endless.

The next time you want to complain about little things like that,and even get stressed about them,stop and think about how blessed you are.You will realise that you really do not have real problems. There are people out there with bigger,more serious issues to deal with in this life.That is not to mean that you should downplay your problems, rather you should make an habit of adopting a more positive altitude to life.

Other than always talking about the miseries in your life,it would help to have more optimistic altitude towards life.The traffic jam may be bad,but you should be grateful that you are in a car or matatu and that you can afford one,and also that you are not one.When you want to complain about your demanding husband and baby,praise God that you are not lonely,that you have a husband and you are blessed with a demanding baby.Do not take it for granted that you have a child,no matter how tiring it is to look after him or her,since some women are unable to have children.

If tempted to complain about how small your house is,think of IDPS,who live in tents years after postelection violence, and other homeless people.You think your skin is bad, because you have a few pimples and dry patches?Well there is someone suffering from skin cancer or other serious conditions.

If you want to complain about how terrible and unmanageable your hair is,just think about that woman who has lost all her glorious hair,not because she wanted to be clean shaven ,but because she underwent a series of very painful chemotherapy sessions. If you are stressed because of the mortgage, please stop and think how blessed you are that the bank considered you for a mortgage. Infact,you are among less than 10 per cent of Kenyans who can afford a mortgage.

Let gratitude became your way of life.Each day,take time to count your blessings. Gratitude should not be just a reaction to getting what you want,but an all time gratitude,the kind where you notice the little things,and where you constantly look for the good,even in unpleasant situations. Start bringing gratitude to your experiences instead of waiting for a positive experience to feel grateful.

The benefits of gratitude are many.You develop stronger emotional resilience and are able to cope better with adversity.You Will aslo be happier,you will sleep better,and you will be healthier.

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